Are tough times upon you? Did you lose a job? Is everyone turning their backs on you? Well that is all apart of growth! Growth is when you learn a skill from an experience. Of ten when we think of growth we think of height. Well I like that idea because you do elevate as a person when you grow.
One of my elements was when I got into a bad car accident in 2009. I fell asleep behind the wheel on a 24 hour trip. I learned that with more preparation and less dwelling on the problem. I can solve everything. I could have actually gotten sleep the night before, but I didn’t. I was too engaged on planning the trip instead of executing it. When came to the actual execution I was too exhausted to execute it properly.
Those two lessons have helped me because I use it for every one of my endeavors. I have done more with more preparation and less dwelling than anything. I finished school and became a best selling author. I have grown so much since the accident that it is a thing of the past. I could dwell on it but I forgot about it after a few years. (Maybe a head injury.)
Solution: Grow from the good and the bad situations. THere is always a lesson.
If you can not find a lesson contact me on instagram @thelazymanshustle.
Love is in the air this week of Valentine’s. The birds are chirping many are searching but so many are lost on the meaning of love. Love has many faces and many facets. The faces of love can be sweet, passionate, empowering, and tough. The sweet love is what we look for during Valentines. This is the love we see in the movies. Like my favorite movie Hitch. Hitch is a love advisor who falls in love in a movie. He looks for ways to impress the woman he has feelings for. This is what most people who fantasize love want. The perfect kind of love that is freeing and so on. No controlling you or telling you what to do just love. This comes from having a over-fantasization of your parents and caregivers. Most parents/caregivers are selfless human beings. They give you what you need and sometimes what you want. This is the spoiling in a way. Spoiling is another way of saying enabling. Enabling is letting people do and say what they want to their own detriment. Enabling and empowering are sometimes confused. The confusion comes from seeing others getting instant gratification from their detrimental actions and seeing that as empowering them. Empowerment doesn’t come from giving a candy to a baby. The candy can instantly gratify a sweet tooth and a frazzled mother. The empowering choice would be to give the baby water or milk. Water and milk are nutritious for babies. This can help the baby grow into a powerful adult with great comprehension of the world.
Let’s not be enablers! Enablers are lazy and suffer from cowardice. They do love but it’s an overlove that could end with them in an early grave from stress and mistreatment. You must teach others how to treat you. Forgiveness is only for your soul. The trespasser musn’t know you forgave them. Telling the trespasser you forgive them will enable them to do worst. Then you end up stuck in a vicious cycle.