Are tough times upon you? Did you lose a job? Is everyone turning their backs on you? Well that is all apart of growth! Growth is when you learn a skill from an experience. Of ten when we think of growth we think of height. Well I like that idea because you do elevate as a person when you grow.
One of my elements was when I got into a bad car accident in 2009. I fell asleep behind the wheel on a 24 hour trip. I learned that with more preparation and less dwelling on the problem. I can solve everything. I could have actually gotten sleep the night before, but I didn’t. I was too engaged on planning the trip instead of executing it. When came to the actual execution I was too exhausted to execute it properly.
Those two lessons have helped me because I use it for every one of my endeavors. I have done more with more preparation and less dwelling than anything. I finished school and became a best selling author. I have grown so much since the accident that it is a thing of the past. I could dwell on it but I forgot about it after a few years. (Maybe a head injury.)
Solution: Grow from the good and the bad situations. THere is always a lesson.
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Love is in the air this week of Valentine’s. The birds are chirping many are searching but so many are lost on the meaning of love. Love has many faces and many facets. The faces of love can be sweet, passionate, empowering, and tough. The sweet love is what we look for during Valentines. This is the love we see in the movies. Like my favorite movie Hitch. Hitch is a love advisor who falls in love in a movie. He looks for ways to impress the woman he has feelings for. This is what most people who fantasize love want. The perfect kind of love that is freeing and so on. No controlling you or telling you what to do just love. This comes from having a over-fantasization of your parents and caregivers. Most parents/caregivers are selfless human beings. They give you what you need and sometimes what you want. This is the spoiling in a way. Spoiling is another way of saying enabling. Enabling is letting people do and say what they want to their own detriment. Enabling and empowering are sometimes confused. The confusion comes from seeing others getting instant gratification from their detrimental actions and seeing that as empowering them. Empowerment doesn’t come from giving a candy to a baby. The candy can instantly gratify a sweet tooth and a frazzled mother. The empowering choice would be to give the baby water or milk. Water and milk are nutritious for babies. This can help the baby grow into a powerful adult with great comprehension of the world.
Let’s not be enablers! Enablers are lazy and suffer from cowardice. They do love but it’s an overlove that could end with them in an early grave from stress and mistreatment. You must teach others how to treat you. Forgiveness is only for your soul. The trespasser musn’t know you forgave them. Telling the trespasser you forgive them will enable them to do worst. Then you end up stuck in a vicious cycle.
Self-Hate is the most destructive kind of love. Why do I say it is a destructive kind of love? Because What I have observed is that we are not born to hate anything. We are born to learn but definitely not hate. When I see a baby crying for food or attention. I see an entity learning how to fill its belly or satiate a need. There is no hate there. I have never seen a deer hate someone without having a past with that person. I see self-hate as a love of the past.
The past was good to some but was bad to others. When the ones who were mistreated by the past look back they see themselves being mistreated. They just see it at face value nothing more nothing less. When they want to improve themselves they remember the time they wanted to do something different and failed at it. This stops them from trying again out of fear of ridicule and mistreatment. Why is this such a horrible thing? Because success doesn’t happen at a push of the button. Sometimes, you have to push the button till you don’t have a finger to press it anymore.
Self-Hate will hold you back from building relationships. Building relationships is a lost art form. The love of our past makes us live in the past. When we meet people of a certain color, demeanor, or even height. We can be prone to mistreat them because of our past. Self-hate can make our allies look like our enemies and our enemies look like our friends. We can end up helping our enemy and breaking our friends. The same friends that have been with us through thick and thin, Can look like our enemy from one bad day.
Self-hate makes us be very patient with our enemies but very impatient with our friends. Our enemy can be threatening to kill us but self-hate makes us laugh it off. Our friend could forget us at the store one time and we want to break ties with them forever. Why does self-hate make us love our enemies more? Because self-hate wants us dead.
Self-Hate is happy when you handle your problems passively. Self-hate loves to see you stressing from self-inflicted pain. Self-hate will change your life priorities to where you are paying the bar before you pay your bills. To where you are paying the store before paying the bills. Self-hate loves you being a detriment to yourself.
The solution to Self-Hate is very easy. Self-Hate is caused by unresolved conflict. When we are told to forgive someone it is meant to heal yourself. Your mind can play the rationalization game very well. It can make everything look like the fault of others in an instance. When we can forgive the past and take the effort to build ourselves in many ways. We can learn to move forward and love ourselves. Effort is an amazing game changer. When we get out there and resolve our problems.
The POWERFUL mindset is the most life-changing mindset you can have. A POWERFUL mindset will bring great improvement to your life. The Powerful Mindset is obtainable to the positive thinker. The positive thinker says yes to the solution. The Powerful Mindset will simplify the steps to a solution. The Powerful mindset sets deadlines to everything they do. The Power Mindset isn’t very organized aesthetically but is very effective. If you are struggling in life. You must have The Powerful Mindset. The Powerful Mindset is the solution. Believe me, I have had many bad things happen to me in life. I have been the person to let it get to me. I was everyone’s conveniently placed punching bag. When they had a bad day they could rely on me to be a person to mistreat. I would be working on new projects and would have to be yelled at for no reason. I would have to deal with bitter people who have done nothing in their life telling me how to live mine. This would affect me so much I would give up and fester.
The Powerful mindset helped me get out those situations. The Power mindset showed me a way out to improve my life. This mindset helped me write my second book Powerfuls: The Book Of Power Gain. Powerfuls is a step by step book on how to gain a Powerful mindset. It has helped many people gain a better life and achieve their dreams.
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Propaganda comes in many forms! Propaganda can be the show you watched where all the rich people have a heart of gold. It could be the show about a leader which only shows one part of their life but leave out all the bad or progressive stuff. I believe many of us have been victims of propaganda. When we mistreat each other because we have been told to think of each other or if you see your friend of a different race as “one of the good ones” You Are A Victim of Propaganda. If you see yourself as “one of the good ones” You Are A Victim of Propaganda. Propaganda is defined as especially bias or misleading information used to promote a cause or point of view. Propaganda can be “your not the solution to your life, We ARE!”. Propaganda is very detrimental to us as human beings and wishes for us to not think critically of it.
In my book Powerfuls I go in depth about thinking critically. Even in school I have had to look outside the class and the text. Question everything given to you it could be a poison hidden in a good meal.
One of my crazy stories is when I first came back to my hometown after traveling the world. I went to a local bar to observe the local scene to see where I fit. I talk with the friendly bartender and waiters and more of the locals in the bar. When I drink my water at the end of the bar I start feeling people touching me. I turn around and its a random caucasian couple just touching me on my arms, chest and back. When I asked what was their problem. They told me to lighten up it’s just a joke.
The lesson I learned is A Person Will Never Tell You They Are Mistreating YOU!
Writing is a Gods Game! You can create or recreate yours and others lives anyway you want. You can be the successful millionaire or the homeless person with a genius intellect. You can be the protector of your city or destroy it in one swoop of a pen. Your enemies do not have a gray area. You can make them all bad people with evil in their heart. We can make our failures our greatest success. This is The God’s game of writing. This is power you need to keep in your hands. When you lose the gift to create your own story. It goes in the hands of your enemies and people who never knew you. They will get the story from their perspective from their reality of you. You could be the softest teddy bear but they will remember you for the time your eye hit their tooth. This will make you seem like the worst person in the world. They will remember all your failings not the success you brought to yourself and others. This is the fault of social media. We let outsiders see all our inner thoughts and share ratchet memes with each other. These ratchet memes broadly paint us as paranoid love hurt people. When attention became currency big egos became god. The people you may not have said hi to because you are shy. Will see you as stuck up. The world of perspectives is a crazy game.
Let’s learn how to communicate properly and tell our stories before it’s too late!
Muscle Memory is the retention of certain actions and movements we do. Muscle memory is mainly used in sports and body building. These give athletes the advantage of being able to keep a non active mind and let the body do the work. This is achieved through repetition and most of all constant practice. These are mostly good things to do in life. When you are in the learning process of a job we want to have these muscle memory qualities.
What is a Habit?
A habit is defined as a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up. A practice can be the doing yoga to the constant drink at the same place on a daily basis.
We should practice positive habits and find joy from them. These positive habits can be Assertiveness, bravery, discipline, and love. We should practice real love with one another and not the enabler love. These positive practices can be achieved in a matter of months with the right cultivation. I believe habit is muscle memory that our comfort zone has given to us. The comfort zone we should give up on cultivating. The oppressor wants you in your comfort zone. The comfort zone makes you easily controllable. I hate using the word sheeple because sheep can be leaders to the slaughter. These sheep are taught by a master to obey him and kill the sheep’s kin. This is a bad habit to have. Let’s make a new word and call them the Dociles! The people who don’t control themselves and let others delegate their existence. This becomes bad muscle memory.
Cultivate the leader in you by following the outline in The Lazy Man’s Hustle!
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The Lazy Man’s Hustle
Rule No. 1: Never lose money Rule No. 2: Never forget rule No. 1 It seems like a simple formula. Make money. Keep it. Don’t lose it. But how to do all the above with minimal effort is the key. If you want to shake off the shackles of having a boss and making him (or her) rich while you get poorer, then The Lazy Man’s Hustle can make it happen for you. Inside this book, you are going to discover how the author made it happen for himself, earning money with minimal effort through knowing; • What the Lazy Man’s Hustle is • That you time is valuable • Living within your means • Focusing on yourself • Avoiding debt and living debt free • And much more… The Lazy Man’s Hustle is more than just another self-help book with a dream that is virtually unachievable. This formula really works and if you follow it, then you too can have a life where you can chill out and relax whenever you feel the need. If freedom is what you want, then get a copy of The Lazy Man’s Hustle right now. It could change the rest of your life.
Hubris, some see it as a gift and some see it as an opposition. The ones who see it as a gift use it as such. They make hubris work to better the lives of others or help empower people in their community. They see hubris as a way to build self confidence in the person that is oppresed daily. Always improving because they have accepted themselves and want to help others.
The ones that are against hubris want to control the hubris filled person. These people hate the confident person with self-respect and abundant self-confidence. The will try to bring them down. They will treat the confident person lower than them because they fear being stood up to. They hate to see the confident person achieving greatness, doing things their own way. This is where bullying comes in. The bully hates seeing one of their victims getting up on their own and seeing their worth. The bully needs a punching bag to vent their lack of self-confidence. When the “hubris” filled person stands up to them they see the truth in their false confidence. They see they are weak.
Hubris should be used wisely. I use my hubris when someone want to bully me and make me feel smaller as a person. Hubris is a great armor and weapon. When people try to belittle you, hubris makes you stand up for yourself. If hubris wasn’t their you would become encumbered by others petty problems. They would use you as a place to vent their problems but instead of talking to you. they will treat you less than you deserve.