In a the world of social media we have been given access to the world. The world can see our lives at a press of an app. These apps include Facebook, Tumblr, Instagram, and Blogs. These can be used as tools of good purpose or weapons of mass destruction. The good purpose can be influencing others to do great, telling people to beware of a bad product, and awareness of a bad system. These are moving the world forward with energy. Some of us get stuck on the part of pointing out a problem. This points to the instant gratification of the one click world. Which in the end is just lip-service. Lip-service is the art of saying something without action. Some are content with just lip service. This shows a laziness in them. Some are social media warriors. saying that things are bad instead of looking for solutions. The solutions that can go into a future entrepreneur’s hand to execute it. This is The Lazy Man’s Hustle. The Hustle that brings solutions to the world.
Love is in the air this week of Valentine’s. The birds are chirping many are searching but so many are lost on the meaning of love. Love has many faces and many facets. The faces of love can be sweet, passionate, empowering, and tough. The sweet love is what we look for during Valentines. This is the love we see in the movies. Like my favorite movie Hitch. Hitch is a love advisor who falls in love in a movie. He looks for ways to impress the woman he has feelings for. This is what most people who fantasize love want. The perfect kind of love that is freeing and so on. No controlling you or telling you what to do just love. This comes from having a over-fantasization of your parents and caregivers. Most parents/caregivers are selfless human beings. They give you what you need and sometimes what you want. This is the spoiling in a way. Spoiling is another way of saying enabling. Enabling is letting people do and say what they want to their own detriment. Enabling and empowering are sometimes confused. The confusion comes from seeing others getting instant gratification from their detrimental actions and seeing that as empowering them. Empowerment doesn’t come from giving a candy to a baby. The candy can instantly gratify a sweet tooth and a frazzled mother. The empowering choice would be to give the baby water or milk. Water and milk are nutritious for babies. This can help the baby grow into a powerful adult with great comprehension of the world.
Let’s not be enablers! Enablers are lazy and suffer from cowardice. They do love but it’s an overlove that could end with them in an early grave from stress and mistreatment. You must teach others how to treat you. Forgiveness is only for your soul. The trespasser musn’t know you forgave them. Telling the trespasser you forgive them will enable them to do worst. Then you end up stuck in a vicious cycle.
Self-Hate is the most destructive kind of love. Why do I say it is a destructive kind of love? Because What I have observed is that we are not born to hate anything. We are born to learn but definitely not hate. When I see a baby crying for food or attention. I see an entity learning how to fill its belly or satiate a need. There is no hate there. I have never seen a deer hate someone without having a past with that person. I see self-hate as a love of the past.
The past was good to some but was bad to others. When the ones who were mistreated by the past look back they see themselves being mistreated. They just see it at face value nothing more nothing less. When they want to improve themselves they remember the time they wanted to do something different and failed at it. This stops them from trying again out of fear of ridicule and mistreatment. Why is this such a horrible thing? Because success doesn’t happen at a push of the button. Sometimes, you have to push the button till you don’t have a finger to press it anymore.
Self-Hate will hold you back from building relationships. Building relationships is a lost art form. The love of our past makes us live in the past. When we meet people of a certain color, demeanor, or even height. We can be prone to mistreat them because of our past. Self-hate can make our allies look like our enemies and our enemies look like our friends. We can end up helping our enemy and breaking our friends. The same friends that have been with us through thick and thin, Can look like our enemy from one bad day.
Self-hate makes us be very patient with our enemies but very impatient with our friends. Our enemy can be threatening to kill us but self-hate makes us laugh it off. Our friend could forget us at the store one time and we want to break ties with them forever. Why does self-hate make us love our enemies more? Because self-hate wants us dead.
Self-Hate is happy when you handle your problems passively. Self-hate loves to see you stressing from self-inflicted pain. Self-hate will change your life priorities to where you are paying the bar before you pay your bills. To where you are paying the store before paying the bills. Self-hate loves you being a detriment to yourself.
The solution to Self-Hate is very easy. Self-Hate is caused by unresolved conflict. When we are told to forgive someone it is meant to heal yourself. Your mind can play the rationalization game very well. It can make everything look like the fault of others in an instance. When we can forgive the past and take the effort to build ourselves in many ways. We can learn to move forward and love ourselves. Effort is an amazing game changer. When we get out there and resolve our problems.
The POWERFUL mindset is the most life-changing mindset you can have. A POWERFUL mindset will bring great improvement to your life. The Powerful Mindset is obtainable to the positive thinker. The positive thinker says yes to the solution. The Powerful Mindset will simplify the steps to a solution. The Powerful mindset sets deadlines to everything they do. The Power Mindset isn’t very organized aesthetically but is very effective. If you are struggling in life. You must have The Powerful Mindset. The Powerful Mindset is the solution. Believe me, I have had many bad things happen to me in life. I have been the person to let it get to me. I was everyone’s conveniently placed punching bag. When they had a bad day they could rely on me to be a person to mistreat. I would be working on new projects and would have to be yelled at for no reason. I would have to deal with bitter people who have done nothing in their life telling me how to live mine. This would affect me so much I would give up and fester.
The Powerful mindset helped me get out those situations. The Power mindset showed me a way out to improve my life. This mindset helped me write my second book Powerfuls: The Book Of Power Gain. Powerfuls is a step by step book on how to gain a Powerful mindset. It has helped many people gain a better life and achieve their dreams.
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Propaganda comes in many forms! Propaganda can be the show you watched where all the rich people have a heart of gold. It could be the show about a leader which only shows one part of their life but leave out all the bad or progressive stuff. I believe many of us have been victims of propaganda. When we mistreat each other because we have been told to think of each other or if you see your friend of a different race as “one of the good ones” You Are A Victim of Propaganda. If you see yourself as “one of the good ones” You Are A Victim of Propaganda. Propaganda is defined as especially bias or misleading information used to promote a cause or point of view. Propaganda can be “your not the solution to your life, We ARE!”. Propaganda is very detrimental to us as human beings and wishes for us to not think critically of it.
In my book Powerfuls I go in depth about thinking critically. Even in school I have had to look outside the class and the text. Question everything given to you it could be a poison hidden in a good meal.
One of my crazy stories is when I first came back to my hometown after traveling the world. I went to a local bar to observe the local scene to see where I fit. I talk with the friendly bartender and waiters and more of the locals in the bar. When I drink my water at the end of the bar I start feeling people touching me. I turn around and its a random caucasian couple just touching me on my arms, chest and back. When I asked what was their problem. They told me to lighten up it’s just a joke.
The lesson I learned is A Person Will Never Tell You They Are Mistreating YOU!
Writing is a Gods Game! You can create or recreate yours and others lives anyway you want. You can be the successful millionaire or the homeless person with a genius intellect. You can be the protector of your city or destroy it in one swoop of a pen. Your enemies do not have a gray area. You can make them all bad people with evil in their heart. We can make our failures our greatest success. This is The God’s game of writing. This is power you need to keep in your hands. When you lose the gift to create your own story. It goes in the hands of your enemies and people who never knew you. They will get the story from their perspective from their reality of you. You could be the softest teddy bear but they will remember you for the time your eye hit their tooth. This will make you seem like the worst person in the world. They will remember all your failings not the success you brought to yourself and others. This is the fault of social media. We let outsiders see all our inner thoughts and share ratchet memes with each other. These ratchet memes broadly paint us as paranoid love hurt people. When attention became currency big egos became god. The people you may not have said hi to because you are shy. Will see you as stuck up. The world of perspectives is a crazy game.
Let’s learn how to communicate properly and tell our stories before it’s too late!
At a very early age my father abandoned me and we were just me, my mother and my sister. For economic reasons my mom had to go to work away and left us with my grandmother who is like a second mother to us or almost the first one, because she is the one who was always there for us, my mom only saw her once a month and Sometimes not, when I was growing up I got used to it but after a while my mom got a job nearby and could be with us every day as expected. I fell in love with a boy with whom I lasted 4 years and was unfaithful to me. Another woman who became pregnant with him and ended that relationship when I realized, my mother had a husband who was very bad and made her suffer a lot but that relationship and that relationship ended. Due to what happened with my previous relationship it has been difficult for me to trust someone else but over time I have overcome it Now I just try to improve myself and continue studying and working to have a better future, a better life and give my mother and my grandmother the best.