Self-Hate is the most destructive kind of love. Why do I say it is a destructive kind of love? Because What I have observed is that we are not born to hate anything. We are born to learn but definitely not hate. When I see a baby crying for food or attention. I see an entity learning how to fill its belly or satiate a need. There is no hate there. I have never seen a deer hate someone without having a past with that person. I see self-hate as a love of the past.
The past was good to some but was bad to others. When the ones who were mistreated by the past look back they see themselves being mistreated. They just see it at face value nothing more nothing less. When they want to improve themselves they remember the time they wanted to do something different and failed at it. This stops them from trying again out of fear of ridicule and mistreatment. Why is this such a horrible thing? Because success doesn’t happen at a push of the button. Sometimes, you have to push the button till you don’t have a finger to press it anymore.
Self-Hate will hold you back from building relationships. Building relationships is a lost art form. The love of our past makes us live in the past. When we meet people of a certain color, demeanor, or even height. We can be prone to mistreat them because of our past. Self-hate can make our allies look like our enemies and our enemies look like our friends. We can end up helping our enemy and breaking our friends. The same friends that have been with us through thick and thin, Can look like our enemy from one bad day.
Self-hate makes us be very patient with our enemies but very impatient with our friends. Our enemy can be threatening to kill us but self-hate makes us laugh it off. Our friend could forget us at the store one time and we want to break ties with them forever. Why does self-hate make us love our enemies more? Because self-hate wants us dead.
Self-Hate is happy when you handle your problems passively. Self-hate loves to see you stressing from self-inflicted pain. Self-hate will change your life priorities to where you are paying the bar before you pay your bills. To where you are paying the store before paying the bills. Self-hate loves you being a detriment to yourself.
The solution to Self-Hate is very easy. Self-Hate is caused by unresolved conflict. When we are told to forgive someone it is meant to heal yourself. Your mind can play the rationalization game very well. It can make everything look like the fault of others in an instance. When we can forgive the past and take the effort to build ourselves in many ways. We can learn to move forward and love ourselves. Effort is an amazing game changer. When we get out there and resolve our problems.
Propaganda comes in many forms! Propaganda can be the show you watched where all the rich people have a heart of gold. It could be the show about a leader which only shows one part of their life but leave out all the bad or progressive stuff. I believe many of us have been victims of propaganda. When we mistreat each other because we have been told to think of each other or if you see your friend of a different race as “one of the good ones” You Are A Victim of Propaganda. If you see yourself as “one of the good ones” You Are A Victim of Propaganda. Propaganda is defined as especially bias or misleading information used to promote a cause or point of view. Propaganda can be “your not the solution to your life, We ARE!”. Propaganda is very detrimental to us as human beings and wishes for us to not think critically of it.
In my book Powerfuls I go in depth about thinking critically. Even in school I have had to look outside the class and the text. Question everything given to you it could be a poison hidden in a good meal.
From Star wars to Batman, all stories are based in fact. Be it a traumatizing experience on a personal level or a horrible experience we have had together. All creativity comes tradgedy. We never want to hear a boring story. We need a conflict in our fiction. Be it us versus the big bad army, Being attack by aliens, going against the odds, or losing a loved one. We have all been there. Events like these make the best stories. When was the last time you read a story about a very happy individual with a happy day? Those go well in baby stories until the baby loses its mom. These are the best things to build from. Everyone loves the movie series Star Wars by Georg Lucas. The crazy truth is…They are all based on World War II. He saw the dogfight films from the war and wanted to recreate them. When you see the creativity of the special effects team making these films, It’s Impressive. Lucas’s fact-based turn to fiction has become one of the most successful franchises in the world. This should inspire you to write about your tragedies and put a spin on them. Tragedies in my life, influenced me to write the book The Lazy Man’s Hustle. I was at a very low point in my life for a year. Noone was hiring and no money was coming to me. I would lay in bed all day. I was very depressed. I felt I wasn’t worth anything. Then I started having Ideas. I went to several different events around the U.S. all on my savings. This really helped me see the entrepenuerial side of the business world. I saw how much of my time was wasted building for another persons wealth. This is when I started a landscaping business, a podcast, and started writing comics. I would sell these and make a good amount of money back. This inspired me to write The Lazy Man’s Hustle. I saw too many people sad with their lives because they were jobless or didn’t have the drive to leave a horrible job. They chose to be victims. This is how the fact of being jobless, helped my creativity. WHAT CAN YOU CREATE FROM TRAGEDY?