Self-Hate is the most destructive kind of love. Why do I say it is a destructive kind of love? Because What I have observed is that we are not born to hate anything. We are born to learn but definitely not hate. When I see a baby crying for food or attention. I see an entity learning how to fill its belly or satiate a need. There is no hate there. I have never seen a deer hate someone without having a past with that person. I see self-hate as a love of the past.
The past was good to some but was bad to others. When the ones who were mistreated by the past look back they see themselves being mistreated. They just see it at face value nothing more nothing less. When they want to improve themselves they remember the time they wanted to do something different and failed at it. This stops them from trying again out of fear of ridicule and mistreatment. Why is this such a horrible thing? Because success doesn’t happen at a push of the button. Sometimes, you have to push the button till you don’t have a finger to press it anymore.
Self-Hate will hold you back from building relationships. Building relationships is a lost art form. The love of our past makes us live in the past. When we meet people of a certain color, demeanor, or even height. We can be prone to mistreat them because of our past. Self-hate can make our allies look like our enemies and our enemies look like our friends. We can end up helping our enemy and breaking our friends. The same friends that have been with us through thick and thin, Can look like our enemy from one bad day.
Self-hate makes us be very patient with our enemies but very impatient with our friends. Our enemy can be threatening to kill us but self-hate makes us laugh it off. Our friend could forget us at the store one time and we want to break ties with them forever. Why does self-hate make us love our enemies more? Because self-hate wants us dead.
Self-Hate is happy when you handle your problems passively. Self-hate loves to see you stressing from self-inflicted pain. Self-hate will change your life priorities to where you are paying the bar before you pay your bills. To where you are paying the store before paying the bills. Self-hate loves you being a detriment to yourself.
The solution to Self-Hate is very easy. Self-Hate is caused by unresolved conflict. When we are told to forgive someone it is meant to heal yourself. Your mind can play the rationalization game very well. It can make everything look like the fault of others in an instance. When we can forgive the past and take the effort to build ourselves in many ways. We can learn to move forward and love ourselves. Effort is an amazing game changer. When we get out there and resolve our problems.
Propaganda comes in many forms! Propaganda can be the show you watched where all the rich people have a heart of gold. It could be the show about a leader which only shows one part of their life but leave out all the bad or progressive stuff. I believe many of us have been victims of propaganda. When we mistreat each other because we have been told to think of each other or if you see your friend of a different race as “one of the good ones” You Are A Victim of Propaganda. If you see yourself as “one of the good ones” You Are A Victim of Propaganda. Propaganda is defined as especially bias or misleading information used to promote a cause or point of view. Propaganda can be “your not the solution to your life, We ARE!”. Propaganda is very detrimental to us as human beings and wishes for us to not think critically of it.
In my book Powerfuls I go in depth about thinking critically. Even in school I have had to look outside the class and the text. Question everything given to you it could be a poison hidden in a good meal.
When I tell you to be a local voter what do you think? Maybe its literally going out there and putting a ballot in the box. You would be on the right track but I want you to think deeper. We as a people living in a country where the Presidential election becomes the biggest celebrity event. We keep hearing about the last president we elected and why he’s ruining the country. You have to think deeper than that a local vote can help change things for you where you are at. Most likely at a faster rate. We see the president more often than the local candidates. The President is seen doing everything from looking at the sun to getting a free pizza at Denny’s. This makes it seem more personal. The local candidates are barely given any media time. We have to go searching them out or they come to our door at a time when we don’t answer doors for strangers leaving a flyer that ends up in the trash. This is most of us in our daily lives. Our bodies tell us to avoid certain things but we keep ignoring it til it makes us pay a doctor millions of dollars for something that could have been handled immediately. The local politician works closer to you. They live in your community. You have driven by them countless times going to work. You probably couldn’t list 3 local politicians right now. The one’s that handle your tax rates and where your taxes go. Be a local voter in your life. It will change your life. Deal with what is going on right in front of you. Then expand from there. Be your own advocate! Build your dream and make it a reality. The Ark wasn’t built in a day. Moses wasn’t told to hop in God’s hands and he would carry his people to the promise land. It took them a long time. Stop looking for instant gratification and build. Put that first brick down. Do the research for the foundation you need. BE YOUR LOCAL VOTER!!