Self-Hate is the most destructive kind of love. Why do I say it is a destructive kind of love? Because What I have observed is that we are not born to hate anything. We are born to learn but definitely not hate. When I see a baby crying for food or attention. I see an entity learning how to fill its belly or satiate a need. There is no hate there. I have never seen a deer hate someone without having a past with that person. I see self-hate as a love of the past.
The past was good to some but was bad to others. When the ones who were mistreated by the past look back they see themselves being mistreated. They just see it at face value nothing more nothing less. When they want to improve themselves they remember the time they wanted to do something different and failed at it. This stops them from trying again out of fear of ridicule and mistreatment. Why is this such a horrible thing? Because success doesn’t happen at a push of the button. Sometimes, you have to push the button till you don’t have a finger to press it anymore.
Self-Hate will hold you back from building relationships. Building relationships is a lost art form. The love of our past makes us live in the past. When we meet people of a certain color, demeanor, or even height. We can be prone to mistreat them because of our past. Self-hate can make our allies look like our enemies and our enemies look like our friends. We can end up helping our enemy and breaking our friends. The same friends that have been with us through thick and thin, Can look like our enemy from one bad day.
Self-hate makes us be very patient with our enemies but very impatient with our friends. Our enemy can be threatening to kill us but self-hate makes us laugh it off. Our friend could forget us at the store one time and we want to break ties with them forever. Why does self-hate make us love our enemies more? Because self-hate wants us dead.
Self-Hate is happy when you handle your problems passively. Self-hate loves to see you stressing from self-inflicted pain. Self-hate will change your life priorities to where you are paying the bar before you pay your bills. To where you are paying the store before paying the bills. Self-hate loves you being a detriment to yourself.
The solution to Self-Hate is very easy. Self-Hate is caused by unresolved conflict. When we are told to forgive someone it is meant to heal yourself. Your mind can play the rationalization game very well. It can make everything look like the fault of others in an instance. When we can forgive the past and take the effort to build ourselves in many ways. We can learn to move forward and love ourselves. Effort is an amazing game changer. When we get out there and resolve our problems.
Propaganda comes in many forms! Propaganda can be the show you watched where all the rich people have a heart of gold. It could be the show about a leader which only shows one part of their life but leave out all the bad or progressive stuff. I believe many of us have been victims of propaganda. When we mistreat each other because we have been told to think of each other or if you see your friend of a different race as “one of the good ones” You Are A Victim of Propaganda. If you see yourself as “one of the good ones” You Are A Victim of Propaganda. Propaganda is defined as especially bias or misleading information used to promote a cause or point of view. Propaganda can be “your not the solution to your life, We ARE!”. Propaganda is very detrimental to us as human beings and wishes for us to not think critically of it.
In my book Powerfuls I go in depth about thinking critically. Even in school I have had to look outside the class and the text. Question everything given to you it could be a poison hidden in a good meal.
Their are millions of people on the planet earth. This has led to many relationships in the world. This can be a good thing and a bad thing. There are over 450 confirmed mental conditions in the world. Now, add this to my previous statement. This builds upon the how hostile the relationships can get. I have seen many a person try to use control on me. The will guilt trip, attack you personally, and add others into it. This is called an abusive relationship. I call it an abusive relationship because they don’t want you to grow. They want you to stay in the same place because it makes them feel better about their bad decisions. They will hold all their vitriol for you. When they should leave it for their true enemies. The fuck ups should be kept as far away from you as possible. They have a past of failure and love to roll in it. They love it because they are too scared to make another step. If a pain pirate shows any sign of being a pain pirate, LEAVE. You don’t need negative energy around you. All it does is hold you back. The pain pirate loves to use your resources as your own. They will coax you into a bad decision then make fun of you for it. This negative energy will lead to more pain in your life. The more you’re around it, it will consume you. The failure, the fear, the sadness, and the insecurity wil become yours.
The solution is to keep building. Be a great listener to others. Most people fail to communicate their wants/pain with others. Listen to the jokes they tell. Listen to their tone with you and others. These are great tell-tale signs to what kind of person they are. If they are bad, keep them away from you.(unless for analysis) They aren’t ment to be around you. They don’t want to build with you. They want to kill you.