Have you heard of the analogy of the splinter and plank. To paraphrase it is said. Don’t point out the splinter in my eye when you have a plank in yours. I believe it means dont point out\nrowth. a small problem in someone’s life when you have a big problem in yours. Most of us misunderstand this. We will use it against being criticized or even helped.
We need to use this analogy properly. When you have a splinter in your eye you can see the plank in mine way better than I do. We need to help each other see our own faults better and help each other solve them. When we avoid criticism we avoid growth.
Know how to filter between constructive criticism and destructive criticism. Destructive criticism comes from jealousy. It should mean nothing to you but point out a potential enemy! Constructive criticism helps you build and comes from love.
Solutions are one of the most important things in the world. Solutions are the reason why we have the best societal advances available in human history. Someone saw a problem then created a solution for it. The researched the took the proper steps to solve it. It takes courage to create a solution.
It takes courage to create a solution because most people will not see a problem. Therefore they see your solution as an excess or it having a trivial meaning. I have seen many a person frown upon tech advances which them became a necessity. The one that sticks out to me is the creation of the iPhone. When the iphone 1st came out I remember hearing people say that it was a waste of money and that it is a failing trend. Now everyone has either a iphone or spinoff smartphones based on the same design. Smartphones have been a great solution for many people like, business owners, bloggers, parents, etc. This one solution has changed the world.
So we can go back in forth on how to change things but we must come to a solution.
Self-Hate is the most destructive kind of love. Why do I say it is a destructive kind of love? Because What I have observed is that we are not born to hate anything. We are born to learn but definitely not hate. When I see a baby crying for food or attention. I see an entity learning how to fill its belly or satiate a need. There is no hate there. I have never seen a deer hate someone without having a past with that person. I see self-hate as a love of the past.
The past was good to some but was bad to others. When the ones who were mistreated by the past look back they see themselves being mistreated. They just see it at face value nothing more nothing less. When they want to improve themselves they remember the time they wanted to do something different and failed at it. This stops them from trying again out of fear of ridicule and mistreatment. Why is this such a horrible thing? Because success doesn’t happen at a push of the button. Sometimes, you have to push the button till you don’t have a finger to press it anymore.
Self-Hate will hold you back from building relationships. Building relationships is a lost art form. The love of our past makes us live in the past. When we meet people of a certain color, demeanor, or even height. We can be prone to mistreat them because of our past. Self-hate can make our allies look like our enemies and our enemies look like our friends. We can end up helping our enemy and breaking our friends. The same friends that have been with us through thick and thin, Can look like our enemy from one bad day.
Self-hate makes us be very patient with our enemies but very impatient with our friends. Our enemy can be threatening to kill us but self-hate makes us laugh it off. Our friend could forget us at the store one time and we want to break ties with them forever. Why does self-hate make us love our enemies more? Because self-hate wants us dead.
Self-Hate is happy when you handle your problems passively. Self-hate loves to see you stressing from self-inflicted pain. Self-hate will change your life priorities to where you are paying the bar before you pay your bills. To where you are paying the store before paying the bills. Self-hate loves you being a detriment to yourself.
The solution to Self-Hate is very easy. Self-Hate is caused by unresolved conflict. When we are told to forgive someone it is meant to heal yourself. Your mind can play the rationalization game very well. It can make everything look like the fault of others in an instance. When we can forgive the past and take the effort to build ourselves in many ways. We can learn to move forward and love ourselves. Effort is an amazing game changer. When we get out there and resolve our problems.
Propaganda comes in many forms! Propaganda can be the show you watched where all the rich people have a heart of gold. It could be the show about a leader which only shows one part of their life but leave out all the bad or progressive stuff. I believe many of us have been victims of propaganda. When we mistreat each other because we have been told to think of each other or if you see your friend of a different race as “one of the good ones” You Are A Victim of Propaganda. If you see yourself as “one of the good ones” You Are A Victim of Propaganda. Propaganda is defined as especially bias or misleading information used to promote a cause or point of view. Propaganda can be “your not the solution to your life, We ARE!”. Propaganda is very detrimental to us as human beings and wishes for us to not think critically of it.
In my book Powerfuls I go in depth about thinking critically. Even in school I have had to look outside the class and the text. Question everything given to you it could be a poison hidden in a good meal.
Spider-man is a great case on how you have to get your idea out there. In 1962, Marvel was going to cancel the Amazing Fantasy comics because of poor sales. This prompted Stan Lee to write a comic book to supply teenage readers with a character they can identify with. Stan Lee and Steve Ditko came up with the character of Spider-Man. This character is a teenager with the name ending in “man”. This in a time when teenage characters were named “boy”. Stan Lee went to his editor several times to get the character approved. He was turned down several times because his editor wasn’t ready to take on the character of Spider-Man. The character that has MADE Marvel a big name and brought them into film. The character made Stan Lee the editor and face of Marvel. He is 94 years old and is invited to all the comic conventions and is an inspiration for many up and coming comic book artist and writers. You could be the next Stan Lee but you gave up on an idea on the first NO. Now, noone knows who you are or are inspired by your your actions. You still get visions of success but too fearful to take your next step. Get The Lazy Man’s Hustle today and follow the outline. It will get you to your next level. Follow the link and enjoy freedom of vision
Their are millions of people on the planet earth. This has led to many relationships in the world. This can be a good thing and a bad thing. There are over 450 confirmed mental conditions in the world. Now, add this to my previous statement. This builds upon the how hostile the relationships can get. I have seen many a person try to use control on me. The will guilt trip, attack you personally, and add others into it. This is called an abusive relationship. I call it an abusive relationship because they don’t want you to grow. They want you to stay in the same place because it makes them feel better about their bad decisions. They will hold all their vitriol for you. When they should leave it for their true enemies. The fuck ups should be kept as far away from you as possible. They have a past of failure and love to roll in it. They love it because they are too scared to make another step. If a pain pirate shows any sign of being a pain pirate, LEAVE. You don’t need negative energy around you. All it does is hold you back. The pain pirate loves to use your resources as your own. They will coax you into a bad decision then make fun of you for it. This negative energy will lead to more pain in your life. The more you’re around it, it will consume you. The failure, the fear, the sadness, and the insecurity wil become yours.
The solution is to keep building. Be a great listener to others. Most people fail to communicate their wants/pain with others. Listen to the jokes they tell. Listen to their tone with you and others. These are great tell-tale signs to what kind of person they are. If they are bad, keep them away from you.(unless for analysis) They aren’t ment to be around you. They don’t want to build with you. They want to kill you.
LIFE itself should be used to better yourself and others. Your example should positively influence others. They should feel your positive energy in every word you speak and every action you take. This is your stamp on the world. Your seal on the planet. If you don’t bring your improvement into every situation. YOU stay stagnent and ever waiting for your next step. Instead of being proactive in your short time on this planet. To keep me out of a rut, I use the 3 I’s. The 3 I’s are improve, influence, and impact. These 3 I’s will keep you noncomplacent and always growing. When you see your effect on people make them want to improve. You will feel a sense of completeness.
Hubris, some see it as a gift and some see it as an opposition. The ones who see it as a gift use it as such. They make hubris work to better the lives of others or help empower people in their community. They see hubris as a way to build self confidence in the person that is oppresed daily. Always improving because they have accepted themselves and want to help others.
The ones that are against hubris want to control the hubris filled person. These people hate the confident person with self-respect and abundant self-confidence. The will try to bring them down. They will treat the confident person lower than them because they fear being stood up to. They hate to see the confident person achieving greatness, doing things their own way. This is where bullying comes in. The bully hates seeing one of their victims getting up on their own and seeing their worth. The bully needs a punching bag to vent their lack of self-confidence. When the “hubris” filled person stands up to them they see the truth in their false confidence. They see they are weak.
Hubris should be used wisely. I use my hubris when someone want to bully me and make me feel smaller as a person. Hubris is a great armor and weapon. When people try to belittle you, hubris makes you stand up for yourself. If hubris wasn’t their you would become encumbered by others petty problems. They would use you as a place to vent their problems but instead of talking to you. they will treat you less than you deserve.