Recently I learned my voice is effective. You ask well…here’s a crazy story for you.
I went to a birthday party a few weeks back. I enjoyed my time there and had fun. I passed out a few business cards and became a target of an agent. I would mind my business and some how they would end up touching for no reason. Sometimes assaulting me. I could tell by the “they pay me good” mannerisms that they were an agent that wanted me to react to their verbal and physical assault. I personally saw them as a failure of owning themselves!(Lazy Man’s Hustle)
Moral: If my positivity creates enemies! I will be the god of effective positivity!
Love is in the air this week of Valentine’s. The birds are chirping many are searching but so many are lost on the meaning of love. Love has many faces and many facets. The faces of love can be sweet, passionate, empowering, and tough. The sweet love is what we look for during Valentines. This is the love we see in the movies. Like my favorite movie Hitch. Hitch is a love advisor who falls in love in a movie. He looks for ways to impress the woman he has feelings for. This is what most people who fantasize love want. The perfect kind of love that is freeing and so on. No controlling you or telling you what to do just love. This comes from having a over-fantasization of your parents and caregivers. Most parents/caregivers are selfless human beings. They give you what you need and sometimes what you want. This is the spoiling in a way. Spoiling is another way of saying enabling. Enabling is letting people do and say what they want to their own detriment. Enabling and empowering are sometimes confused. The confusion comes from seeing others getting instant gratification from their detrimental actions and seeing that as empowering them. Empowerment doesn’t come from giving a candy to a baby. The candy can instantly gratify a sweet tooth and a frazzled mother. The empowering choice would be to give the baby water or milk. Water and milk are nutritious for babies. This can help the baby grow into a powerful adult with great comprehension of the world.
Let’s not be enablers! Enablers are lazy and suffer from cowardice. They do love but it’s an overlove that could end with them in an early grave from stress and mistreatment. You must teach others how to treat you. Forgiveness is only for your soul. The trespasser musn’t know you forgave them. Telling the trespasser you forgive them will enable them to do worst. Then you end up stuck in a vicious cycle.
Have an EMPOWERING LOVE for one another!
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Self-Hate is the most destructive kind of love. Why do I say it is a destructive kind of love? Because What I have observed is that we are not born to hate anything. We are born to learn but definitely not hate. When I see a baby crying for food or attention. I see an entity learning how to fill its belly or satiate a need. There is no hate there. I have never seen a deer hate someone without having a past with that person. I see self-hate as a love of the past.
The past was good to some but was bad to others. When the ones who were mistreated by the past look back they see themselves being mistreated. They just see it at face value nothing more nothing less. When they want to improve themselves they remember the time they wanted to do something different and failed at it. This stops them from trying again out of fear of ridicule and mistreatment. Why is this such a horrible thing? Because success doesn’t happen at a push of the button. Sometimes, you have to push the button till you don’t have a finger to press it anymore.
Self-Hate will hold you back from building relationships. Building relationships is a lost art form. The love of our past makes us live in the past. When we meet people of a certain color, demeanor, or even height. We can be prone to mistreat them because of our past. Self-hate can make our allies look like our enemies and our enemies look like our friends. We can end up helping our enemy and breaking our friends. The same friends that have been with us through thick and thin, Can look like our enemy from one bad day.
Self-hate makes us be very patient with our enemies but very impatient with our friends. Our enemy can be threatening to kill us but self-hate makes us laugh it off. Our friend could forget us at the store one time and we want to break ties with them forever. Why does self-hate make us love our enemies more? Because self-hate wants us dead.
Self-Hate is happy when you handle your problems passively. Self-hate loves to see you stressing from self-inflicted pain. Self-hate will change your life priorities to where you are paying the bar before you pay your bills. To where you are paying the store before paying the bills. Self-hate loves you being a detriment to yourself.
The solution to Self-Hate is very easy. Self-Hate is caused by unresolved conflict. When we are told to forgive someone it is meant to heal yourself. Your mind can play the rationalization game very well. It can make everything look like the fault of others in an instance. When we can forgive the past and take the effort to build ourselves in many ways. We can learn to move forward and love ourselves. Effort is an amazing game changer. When we get out there and resolve our problems.
The world will be a better place!!
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